Are you an Unbelieving Husband?

1 Corinthians 7:14:For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not live in peace with your wife.


You are an unbelieving husband if you attend church and have no interest in Godly things.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not seek God and wisdom from the Lord.

You are an unbelieving husband if you threaten your wife to divorce or leave her.

You are an unbelieving husband if you quarrel with your wife for her faith and beliefs.

You are an unbelieving husband if you argue and disagree with your wife for every little thing.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not have intimacy and the bonding of marriage with your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are disobedient to the Word of God and his commandments.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are not gentle and kind towards your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are insensitive and disrespectful to your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you rarely talk unless you are forced to make a decision.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are angry or depressed all the time with your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you make your wife miserable, making a home of angry outbursts, disrespectful judgments, selfish and ungodly demands.

You are an unbelieving husband if you falsely accuse your wife and defames her Righteous character.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are stubborn and rebellious.

You are an unbelieving husband if you ever violent and hit your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are self righteousness, untruthful, not being thoughtful about the needs of your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you make your wife and children worried about your bad behaviors.

You are an unbelieving husband if you spend your days constantly fighting with your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are un understanding, dishonest, unfaithful, and not committed to marriage vows.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are mean, dictator and unaffectionate with your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you live with your wife just as a roommate and forget all your marital responsibilities.

You are an unbelieving husband if you call yourself as a Believer in Christ but fail to live in Godly ways.

You are an unbelieving husband if you think more like a worldly and accept Christ as a mere lip service.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not seek God and your priorities are not God and your family.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are mean, jealous and rude to your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are hot-tempered and do not have self control.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not love your wife as your own body, nourishing and cherishing her, even as Christ does for the Church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are violent towards your wife and children.

You are an unbelieving husband if you humiliate, hurt and harasses your wife.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not have a gentle tongue and not generous.

You are an unbelieving husband if you are not faithful, reliable and forgiving.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not lead your family in the way of righteousness.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not place your wife and children’s needs and desires above your own.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not fulfill the needs of your wife than receiving fulfillment.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not follow God's standards in every area of your life and if you do not provide the needs of your wife and children.

You are an unbelieving husband if you do not reprove your wife, if you do not encourage her to live Godly life, if you do not comfort and help her when she is emotionally or physically hurt.

You are an unbelieving husband if you have pleasure in sinful lifestyles and want to live contrary to the word of God.

Being a Stay Home Mother is a blessing!

God created men to do work outside the house to be the leaders, the providers and protectors. (Genesis 2:5) and women to be Keepers at home instead of forsakers of home. A man ought to work and support his family. This is correct in the Lord. 1 Timothy 5:8 but if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.


God created woman From one of Adam's ribs To be an helpmeet for man To be the glory of man, Loving and affectionate Tender and constant to her offspring, to bear children, and take care for the household stuff, to be Good and virtuous, to be Submissive and respectful to husbands, Fair and graceful, adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety, to be Kind, self-controlled and courteous to strangers. To be compassionate towards poor and needy and to be generous to her neighbors. The older women are to teach the younger women and to live lives that glorify God. A true stay home mother will be godly in character, spiritually strong, submissiveness to the Word of God and to her husband.


True feminine beauty is reflected in a godly woman. She fears God and is devoted to the home and manages the household. A godly women is different by Conscience, Character, by her Clothing, by her appearance and She sees her family members are clothed with humility, pure, righteous and holy. Motherhood that is the most important feminine role that a woman fulfills. Every woman now has a freedom to make her choices in life.

God has given us children as a blessing to train for Him and for His glory. A true motherhood lies in her home watching the child grow step by step, sharing all the first -moments, devoting herself for her children and family members.

Keeping up with children is very tiresome and is equal to working a full time job. Stay home mothers will have a Special bonding between their children. They too have a several jobs like Child rearing, nurturing , guidance cleaning up after children, trying to feed children, giving constant attention for kids, dealing with sick children, supervising the children making sure it is in a familiar, comfortable, relaxed, and nurturing environment, disciplining the children, cooking healthy food for the family , house cleaning, doing laundry, she prays for her family members well being and for finances and she constantly grows in her knowledge with Gods wisdom. And God will supply all her needs because she and her family are seeking God.

Stay home mothers have the opportunity to be in touch with their child on a regular basis, to witness the child's emotional and physical changes. They are given a better chance to be the first to see anything new that happens in a child's life. They shape up their children’s attitudes, actions, behaviour and associations teaching them the statues , the commandments and the laws of the God. Stay home mothers love their children so much that their availability and Involvement becomes primary in every part of her children's life, she sacrifices her worldly desires like money , luxury etc in order to be around her children and family .She refuses to keep One Foot in God's Word, and One Foot in the World. She Seeks God's Kingdom First, Not Worldly Wealth & Possessions and she chooses to Suffer for doing good and Be Poor and Not Compromised with the World Than Be Rich and Famous .She becomes the role model in her children's life by Training, Disciplining and nurturing her children' According to Gods word and keeping away her family members and children from the evil influences of the world who will morally corrupt their morals. Being a stay home mom needs a lots of sacrifice , courage and blessing. Career woman are worldly minded, her sense of value is in rushing towards luxury and comfort endlessly and they miss out all the joys around her children and family . My perception may be different from yours. But at the last its what God says matters! But As parents, God holds us fully accountable to faithfully represent His authority and standards for more than just providing food, shelter, and protection. The best way to raise godly children is, by parents being godly and setting and living as a Godly example. There is always a success and rewards in parenting in Godly ways. Our worldly culture rarely values this role of the stay-at-home mother instead they accuse that stay home mothers are week, uneducated, lazy ,worthless and they need to pursue a career be equivalent to men rather being stayed at home and managing the household. Our culture do not value or appreciate the stay home mothers, traditional family values are no longer accepted. The Bible teaches in 1st Timothy 6:8 that we ought to be content with just food and clothing.


The Bible does not teach that children should be exposed to all kinds of sin. Children do not grow spiritually stronger in a negative environment where Gods standards are mocked, where worldly standards are enforced. Standards for morality must be taken from Scripture not from day care centers or from the schools .


Even during biblical times, Mother Mary who is a mother of Jesus Christ was a very godly woman who was obedient to gods word and she was blessed among women (Lk. 1:28,42) and she was uniquely privileged to bear the Savior of the world she didn’t run after luxury and comfortness like the today’s mothers will go , she did not dump her responsibility on some day care centers or some schools to teach or made arrangements with her mothers or friends or caretakers to fulfill gods role of being mother and to raise the child . There were unmarried or widowed women, like Lydia, or Ruth, who have to earn their own living by working outside. We stay home mothers will trust on God and his promises because he is the one who supplies all our needs.

Solomon said that it is better to have a dinner of vegetables served with love and peace than to have a stalled ox served with hatred (Pro. 15:17).

Stay Home Mothers know what influences their children are around and control what her children can see and hear.

Scripture reference: Titus 2:5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Psalm 128:3 :Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. The Bible nowhere forbids a woman from working outside the home. However, the Bible does teach what a woman’s priorities are to be inside the home.

Please be encouraged to read my another article “Problems that working women face!”.

God bless you all!

Do you Love your wife as Christ loved the Church?

Christ's love for the church is without limits. He gave His life for the church - before you loved Him. His love does not depend on your love for Him. Under God's authority - love your wife as service--as giving your life to God. Be thankful for your wife and realize the favor you have received from God."(Proverbs 18:22)


A husband must seek to be like Christ if his wife is to be like the Church. Christ honors wives by using them to describe the glories of heaven and the church, “the

holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride

adorned for her husband.” Our marriages should reflect the image of these glories on

this earth. To honor your wife is to communicate the same value God has for her, a value

that finds its expression in the glories of heaven. A family starts with marriage and it is very much seen with the bonding of Adam and Eve in Gen. 2:18, 21-24. Here we can also see that God's idea about a married couple is companionship and intimacy. There is a great bond between a parent and child, but the relationship between a husband and wife ought to be a greater bond than a parent and child.
Jesus expressed loved for the church both by words and by deeds. If a husband properly loves his wife, he will tell her so, but he will also show it by his actions.

As the head of the family a man should provide, not just for himself, but for his whole household.( Genesis 3:17-19, 2 Thess. 3:10). Providing family income is a God-given responsibility for the husband. It is not the wife's responsibility. There may be emergency exceptions. Paul presents another responsibility of husbands in I Timothy 5:8 - "But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own household, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel". the husband has a responsibility to finance or support or provide for his family.

But Some husbands tend to neglect their God given responsibilities neglect the spiritual training of the wife and the children, instead of they discipline the children they will put the responsibility of a wife to discipline the children, even though he is available to administer it himself, and sometimes they even place the burden of providing for the family upon the wife’s shoulders while these men grunting behind the upheld newspaper while the home decays around them. He flips the channels with the television remote while his wife hears the children’s prayers and tucks them in bed. His weekends are filled with golf, football, baseball and other extra curricular activities outside the family etc while his wife struggle alone taking care the needs of her kids. A husband needs to assume a certain responsibility for the spiritual growth of his wife. In order to do that, though, husbands must "give themselves" for their wives by laying aside many of their own personal desires and conveniences in order to fulfill a higher and prior call. The role of the husband is to love his wife to such a degree that she feels secure in that love. Jesus loved us with a sacrificial love. Jesus loved absolutely. His love was without limitation, without condition, and without reserve. The husband is to be committed to total unselfishness in the relationship. Husbands are not to be caustic, bitter, resentful or sarcastic toward their wives as you give yourself to her, allowing your hopes, your desires - your life - to merge with your wife then you are truly united as you are with Christ. Your true love calls for understanding, sensitivity, and meeting your wife's needs. It involves a sincere effort to understand her feelings, fears, anxieties, concerns, God given goals, dreams, and desires. Marriages work when two people sacrifice for each other. They fail when two people keep expecting the other to sacrifice for them. Sacrifice always involves giving something up.
Christ is always at work transforming sinners into saints. He demonstrates His love for the church by ever working to improve her. The church reflects the glory of this transformation as it positively influences the world. Similarly, husbands should be about the work of transforming their wives through love. Radiant wives reflect the glories of a husband .And the sad wives reflect the remorse and detachment. Your love for your wife should be the model how Christ loves the Church. Jesus is your role model you are the only church that most people see in your marriage.

Every 45 seconds in the United States a family is torn apart by divorce. Some husbands Display their Wife for Men to look at in a lustful way but we need to Display our Wife, Like Jesus Displays His Wife- the Church. You see God has given you your wife as a blessing here on earth. To love and cherish for your whole life. Man has been given the spiritual leadership in the family and he and his family needs to reflect Godly ways not worldly ways. Some women dress immodestly and some men allow their wife and children’s to dress immodestly. The motivation that keeps her dressing with modesty comes first from desiring to please God, and second by desiring to please her husband. The Grace of God is what motivates Jesus Christ’s bride to say know to ungodliness and worldly passions. A greed for money can keep the husband away from the family for long hours, or it can cause him to place unreasonable restraints on the family spending. Either way, this can lead to marital problems. Godliness begins with a proper relationship to God.

A Godly husband is kind and compassionate, honest, hard-working, truthful, exercises self-control, has a gentle tongue, generous, willing to be corrected (even by his wife) and listens to counsel, man of integrity, is faithful and reliable, is forgiving, willing to admit he is wrong, humble, not contentious, but a peacemaker, has control of his temper, is a man who avoids excesses, has a concern for others, especially the poor and the oppressed, can keep a confidence, fears God and is obedient to His Word, is not a jealous man, has a positive outlook on life

Eph 5:25-28 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her  to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

God makes time for us and Jesus Christ spent his time and attention with his bride the Church. If you really want to be like Him, give your proper care as God commanded to your wife. God presented Adam with a wife who was created especially for him. Therefore it would be safe to say that his wedding was for the man. Adam had looked for a helper among the animals and could not find one. The entire setting and ceremony of God's provision of Adam's bride was arranged before the woman was created.

First, we must overcome our self-centered natures, if we are to regularly make sacrifices for our wives. Jesus Christ is the Lord of the Church, and demonstrated his lordship by sacrificing himself for his Church. Therefore sacrifice is your responsibility as a Christian man. Putting your wife first requires humility. Sometimes wives are good at humbling their husbands, but this is not her responsibility. The husband is responsible for humbling himself. God's model for the married man begins with humility. The Lord says that you are the husband, the head of your household. But, having said that, the subsequent humility also manifests itself in self denial. Don't push your own desires, wants, needs, or your own way; seek your wife's way first. Seek that which will build her up, not tear her down.

Be devoted, think of her first, and assume your responsibility as the spiritual leader in your home.

To fulfill your leadership requirement, grow in grace and knowledge so you may be a partner to your wife's spiritual ambition; never quench her spiritual aspirations. Follow the Lord's model by cultivating tenderness, strength, and the initiative of a listening ear to accept your responsibility in the family.

Treat women nicely, for a woman is created from a rib, and the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion; so, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women nicely. So it was for this purpose that Christ gave himself for the church. What purpose? That we could be without spot or wrinkle, without blemish, that we could be pure and holy, and should be presented to Christ pure and hole, a beautiful bride for Jesus Christ in all holiness and purity.

Thank you and May God Bless you and your Marriage!